We’ve all heard this at some point, haven’t we? I know I have a couple dozen times. We have this false mentality that sex and marriage is like buying a new car. I have to try it before I buy it. After all, you’d want to know if there are any defects, right?
My wife and I were both virgins until our wedding night, and we wouldn’t have it any other way.
Was it easy? No, and in fact, you wouldn’t believe how much I was mocked throughout college for living my life the way I did. A college guy at a party school who never drank alcohol before he was 21, and who never had sex with a girl? I mean really, who does that!?
But it was a lifestyle I chose to live by, and I’m convinced that our marriage now and forever will be better because of it.
Today, more than 60% of couples cohabitate before getting married. Now when a majority of society insists that sex and/or cohabitation before marriage is perfectly normal, and then more than half of them end up with STD’s and getting divorced, do we really think the advice they give is really the wisest stuff we should listen to? Obviously, a lot of people don’t really have a clue about what they’re talking about.
Today, the trend is continuing that more couples opt for cohabitation instead of marriage:
So since a lot of us have no clue what we’re really talking about, I thought it would be great to divulge a couple of actual facts about premarital sex, cohabitation, marriage, and how they all relate.
5 MYTHS ABOUT PREMARITAL SEX AND COHABITATION
MYTH 1: You have to ‘try it before you buy it.’ Living together before you get married is a great way to see if it would even work out, without the commitment and risk of divorce.
TRUTH: In reality, if you cohabitate before marriage, you’re setting your possible future marriage up for failure before it even begins. The fact is that couple who cohabitate before marriage statistically have a much higher rate of divorce amounting to about 50%, than couples who do not. What are some of the reasons for this?
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