The Supreme Court just announced that Gay Marriage is legal. There are going to be a lot of opinions flying around the web today. People will be thankful, angry, sad, loving, and hateful. Some will feel and act emboldened. Others will feel and act betrayed. I’ve been struggling with how I wanted to respond, as I know a lot of people will ask me. Many will continue the same old adages that gay marriage is ruining the sanctity of marriage, and now that it is legal, whatever sanctity was left is now forever gone. But my mind keeps coming back to two points:
1. Gay marriage didn’t destroy the sanctity of marriage.
2. God’s love is unchanging.
1. Gay Marriage didn’t destroy the sanctity of marriage.
It’s true. We did that well enough all on our own.
- In America, there is statistically one divorce every 13 seconds. That’s 6,646 divorces per day, and 46,523 divorces per week.
- The average length of a marriage that ends in divorce is eight years.
- The average age for couples going through their first divorce is 30 years old.
- Cohabitation, in place of marriage, has increase by nearly 900% over the past 50 years.
- Census data from 2012 shows that 7.8 million couples are living together without walking down the aisle, compared to 2.9 million in 1996.
- For women under 30, more than half of all childbirths occur out of wedlock.
- In 1960, 11 percent of children lived in fatherless homes. Today, that numbers is approaching 40%.
- 15 million U.S. children, or more than 1 in 3, are living with fathers today.
- In some neighborhoods, as few as 1 in 10 children live in stable two-parent households.
And all of this is not without consequence.
First, children from fatherless homes are:
- Seven times more likely to live in poverty
- Six times more likely to commit suicide
- More than twice as likely to commit crime
- More than twice as likely to become pregnant out of wedlock
- Worse off academically and socially
- Worse off physically and emotionally when they reach adulthood
Second, children from fatherless homes account for:
- 60% of America’s rapists
- 63% of America’s youth suicides
- 70% of America’s long-term prison inmates
- 70% of America’s reform school attendees
- 71% of America’s teenage pregnancies
- 71% of America’s high school dropouts
- 72% of America’s adolescent murderers
- 85% of America’s youth prisoners
- 85% of America’s youth with behavioral disorders
- 90% of America’s runaways
Now, don’t get me wrong here. I’m not saying that if you grew up in a divorced household, or without a father, that you are among the statistics above, or that you are somehow any ‘less’ than someone who grew up with a mother and father. But you are among the exceptions. The above are statistical facts.
But when we look at the other side statistically for children who did grow up in a two parent household:
Children from natural marriage homes are:
- Seven times less likely to live in poverty
- Six times less likely to commit suicide
- Less than half as likely to commit crime
- Less than half as likely to become pregnant out of wedlock
- Develop better academically and socially
- Healthier physically and emotionally when they reach adulthood
As I said before, statistically, when a nation has strong families, the nation itself is much stronger.
In the early 20th Century, less than 10% of marriages ended in divorce. When we look at today’s elderly generation, we see that most of the couples are still together. To them, ’til death do us part actually meant something. So what happened? You see, prior to the 1960’s and 1970’s, if you wanted to get a divorce, you had to have a good reason. You had to show proof to the courts that your spouse had cheated on you, or that they were abusive, and so on. But then came no-fault divorce laws. And suddenly, it didn’t matter. If you got bored with someone, or things didn’t go exactly the way you planned, then go ahead! Get that divorce! America is all about what you want. Who cares what someone else wants? Who cares what’s best for your children? As long as you get what you want and feel that you deserve, everything is good to go.
Perhaps if we really sincerely did want to promote our nation’s best interests, we wouldn’t be spending so much time fighting over gay marriage, we would simply ban no-fault divorce laws.
2. God’s Love is Unchanging.
Back to the direct issue of gay marriage, there are a lot of Christians distressed about the new ruling and legalization. But what my mind keeps coming back to here is, so what? Has God changed? Has His word changed? Has your mission changed? Has Christ’s command to go and demonstrate love changed at all?
The fact is that compared to Christians who are literally beheaded and blown up by ISIS just by stating that they are Christians, we still have it pretty darn easy here in America.
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